Bullying is a systematic abuse of force. In some children it takes the form of repeated bullying and nicknames. The effects of bullying may leads to social isolation or physical assult. Bullying can also happen online – this is called cyberbullying. How much and how it affects Bullying is always relative. A day that may have been bad for one child may have been devastating for another. It should be said that bullying usually comes in milder forms (eg unpleasant bullying occurs more often than attacks or social isolation) but bullying is harmful (hurtful) anyway. The latter when it occurs constantly can also cause permanent physical and psychological damage.
The possibilities for you to spot and fight a case of bullying depend on:
The type of bullying the child is experiencing – eg verbal bullying or physical assault
If the trampling is done by a single person or by a group of people
How much bullying has affected your child.
Which strategies do you and your child think are most effective.
Why does bullying occur?
At some age many children may trample on their peers, but bullying becomes less common with age. There are several influencing factors that enable bullying. These factors may be mainly related to a child’s aggressive temperament, low level of sensitivity, ingrained prejudices about a certain group of people, or bad family experiences such as physical or emotional violence.
The social situation in which a child finds himself is an influential factor as well. For example, when children move from 9-year school to high school they try to establish their position in the hierarchy of the new social environment. Children who can be categorized as anti-social also tend to bully others.
How to distinguish the symptoms of Bullying:
Bullying in teens can be difficult to spot, as it is less physically visible compared to bullying in younger children. Your child may try to hide this phenomenon from you and others as he may feel embarrassed, he does not want to bother you or give importance to it. Children usually want to get away from bullying simply by not paying attention.
A child who is experiencing bullying may:
Refuse to attend school, or make excuses for not going
Are anxious and sad before or after class
They say “I hate school” or they are afraid of it
They become more and more obsessed with it
They show signs of physical damage, such as bruising or torn clothes
They have poor performance in school
Returns home damaged or with missing items
Shows noticeable changes in behavior or emotions
There are sleep disturbances
Constantly complains of having headaches, stomach aches, or other physical problems
Has low self-esteem and self-esteem.Bullying can happen anywhere a child goes, not just to school. Bullying as a phenomenon can occur at home. In social and sports activities, and in work environments.
Elasticity is the ability to cope emotionally with the ups and downs of life. Forming elasticity has important benefits for life. These benefits include reduced chances of being bullied or the ability to cope with bullying.
All children can see resilience as an opportunity to fight bullying, but also to develop life skills.
It is never too late to build resilience in your child. The sooner you start, the better. Some ideas can be suggested for this:
Express love to your child. Focus on the positive aspects of your child, but create a balance of love and praise while also being realistic.
Be supportive. It can be a little difficult as your child grows – supporting a teenager is very different from the support you can give your child when he or she is still young. Actively listen to how your child is feeling, explore together opportunities to overcome problems, and suggest helpful perspectives.
Give your child freedom. Children who have the opportunity to meet and make friends with new people develop social habits and interests and expand their social circle. Meanwhile, children who are isolated, who have little or no friends are the ones who fall most prey to bullying.
Encourage your children to be safe when needed. Teach children from an early age that treating others with respect is the right thing to do. It is already proven that if a child treats someone with respect, then he will start asking the same thing for himself from others.
You are the role model for your children – at home with your family and in the relationships you have with others.
Your child looks at you if you show respect for others and resolve conflicts in a beneficial way. Your child learns that this is the right way to interact with others. If your child sees you behaving aggressively then he will most likely copy you.
Good family relationships are very important. They help children feel safe, self-respecting. The way you treat your child at home affects trampling behavior. A child who is afraid of parents is more likely to trample on others because he wants to experience a sense of control and power.
You can build a good relationship with your child by always being close to him.
The way children behave with each other is also very important. Bullying that occurs through cousins is a common occurrence. It should be noted that there is a clear link between bullying that occurs at home between relatives and bullying that occurs at school. The way you react to quarrels that occur between relatives can help your child interact constructively with peers at school. Collaborate with your child’s school
If your child is the target of a bullying behavior at school, and is having a difficult time, then you should consider working with school staff and your child to combat bullying.
Schools need to take bullying very seriously. . The school should provide suggestions that will always vary depending on the circumstances.
Ask the school for a copy of her anti-bullying policies. Also ask the school about how its policies will be implemented in your child’s case.
How to involve the school
Discuss with your child the benefits of talking at school.
Ask your child if he or she would like to be present when you talk at school. Also ask the child if he or she would like to speak at the meeting.
Schedule a school meeting where you select a representative of the parent council.
Discuss the problem with the school representative, put it in front of the facts you have.
Be categorical – but not irritated or accusing – and be willing to listen.
Close the meeting with a plan of how you can manage the situation.
Stay in constant contact with the school.
How to handle different cases
All interventions made by the school should aim at protecting children who have experienced abuse and providing them with security. The specific activity of the school depends on the type of bullying that occurs. If the bullying is serious and goes as far as criminal offenses, you can involve the police.
What to do if the trampling behavior continues:
It is safer to cooperate with the school than to act individually.
Inform the school about any trampling incidents. Keep detailed notes of what might happen. Detailed notes may include: photos of physical injuries caused by physical assaults or photos that show moments of online chats, phone messages or social networks.
Maintain constant contact with the caretaker teacher.
Talk to the school principal.
Ask to arrange meetings with the school board to discuss the importance of the issue.